What We Step Into

05/31/2013

“In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.” ~Brother David Steindl-Rast

Lately I’ve been forgetting a basic fact of life: the energy we send out comes back to us. And my energy has been low. I’ve been starting my mornings with low energy even though I understand that the first energy we bring to anything, a greeting or conversation, a task, or our morning, it sets the tone. If we start with low and slow energy, feeling a bit sad, heavy, focusing on the worries in life, then our day (or conversation, work project, anything) will continue along in that vein.

But if we can muster the highest and happiest energy possible, it will set that higher tone. A much nicer place to be at! There’s an old adage of ‘Fake it ‘til you make it’ which has true merit. Jim Rohn was an inspiring speaker whose tapes I enjoyed years ago. He’d encourage us to do just that. He’d suggest when someone asks how your day is going or how you are doing, if you have to: fake it! Give a huge smile and enthusiastically say ‘Great! Thanks for asking. How are you?’ or something like that. He’d stress this point again and again. Whenever anyone asks you how you are, say ‘I’m doing excellently. Couldn’t be better! It’s a wonderful day.’

Bring-Your-Own-Sunshine

Now sure there are pros and cons to every idea, and I know sometimes we feel blue and we mustn’t hide or bury all our sadness. But that’s what therapy is for. Not our coworkers. Not the cashiers and clerks and people we interact with daily. Another saying I enjoy is, ‘No matter what the weather is, always bring your own sunshine’.

That’s my point! If you are blue or times are horrible and you can’t see the silver lining beyond the clouds – Fake it! Give it a try. Pretend you are happy. Pretend you are bursting with gratitude for all the blessings you still have, rather than focusing on what you don’t have, or the things in your life that are going wrong.

It’s a common mistake that I’ve often fallen into, but whenever I remind myself that I can do certain steps to feel better and start to take action, I’m amazed at the results. Truly consistent results! I feel better almost immediately. And all I changed was my perspective. I decided to act ‘as if’ I was really happy and grateful for my life. And the miraculous thing is, once we act cheerful and start to smile, we begin to feel better. In an incredibly short amount of time we forget we were ‘acting’ or faking it at all. We just feel happier.

Voltaire - decided to be happyRemember… whatever we send out into the world, whatever energy we are radiating, we are the first ones to step into it. So what do I want to feel? What type of energy do I wish to step into? Gratitude. Acceptance. Joy. Love. Just a few words to describe the uplifting feelings I want to generate in my life.

Will I feel that by sulking about the horrors of political stupidity or trying to understand the motives of terrorists or worrying about natural disasters? I’ve been there. I tried that. It doesn’t work. I can see now that no matter how bad I feel about a horrible situation, it doesn’t help. It doesn’t help the world, and it sure doesn’t help my own life.

So, as Voltaire wisely stated, I have decided to be happy because it’s good for my health. And that’s the type of good energy I want to step into.

44 responses to What We Step Into

  1. 

    Brilliant-I needed reminding! Thank you!

    I find that I can really change my mindset too with a bit of effort. It takes practice & willingness to let go of the “poor me” programming, but it can be done!

    Just what I need to do today 🙂

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      Thanks so much Rachel! Yes I too need to be reminded that I, like every one of us, have the ability to change my mind and choose what I wish to focus on. Focussing on my blessings and not ‘what’s missing’ or wrong is the only way to go! Thanks again. Hugs xo Gina

  2. 

    This is just what I needed today. Thank you! Joanne

  3. 

    Thanks for this important reminder – I needed to hear it!

  4. 

    Gina! I’ve been thinking about you this week and wondering how you were doing and of course, here’s your post! I love how that works! Yes! Stepping in to positive energy works much better than worry. One of my teachers once said: “Worrying is taking all of our magnificent creative power and pointing it towards what we don’t want.” I have to remind myself of that from time-to-time. Much love, Cathy

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      Hello my dear friend. I too have been thinking about you! I am thankful for the cool wet weather outside forcing me from my beloved gardening tasks because I can at last sit and visit here and am heading over to your wonderful site asap. Your quote here is so true, and an important reminder! Thank you so much, always, for your kind support and loving friendship. You are deeply appreciated!
      Love and Hugs, Gina

  5. 

    Gina ..thank you for sharing this…take care
    sriram

  6. 

    Great post! Sometimes we have to pretend we are happy because this can actually create a positive habit. In my workshops, I teach positive affirmations. I ask the participants what they say to themselves when they get up in the morning…..’I don’t feel good, it’s going to be a bad day”…..I used to do this and we are just setting ourselves up for a bad day. Now, even when I don’t feel good, I say that I feel great. If it is raining, I tell myself it is going to be a great day. By using positive statements, we are more likely to have a good day and it is creating a new, positive habit that we will start to believe.

    • 

      Great comment! Yes it’s so true that what we say to ourselves in the morning really sets us up for the day. The power of affirmations is very real and valid. Teaching positive affirmations is worthy work! Good for you. May we all remember to choose positive thoughts every day. Thanks for your visit and for commenting. Cheers! Gina

  7. 

    Love this Gina! I’ve missed your posts and was just thinking about you today. So grateful for a Gina post. Yes, fake it, because then the fake becomes real and you no longer need to fake.

    • 

      Hello Jamie! I was thinking about you today too, and was about to head over to your healthy and inspiring blog. Thanks so much for your cheer of support! It means the world to me. Love & Hugs, Gina

  8. 

    We all go through this, torn between what we feel and what we want to be feeling. Thanks for this beautiful , honest post. In hard times, I often tell myself that “This too, shall pass” and comfort myself in knowing better days are at my doorstep 🙂

    • 

      Thank you so much for your beautiful comment. That important passage brings me great comfort as well, and I like how you put it… knowing better days are at my doorstep. This is a seemingly simple yet powerful concept. Thanks again. Your visit is greatly appreciated. 😀

  9. 

    This is brilliant and it gets me up again too…..reading this I realised I was low too, thank you for bringing my energy back!

    • 

      Hello Ute! Thank you so much for sharing this honest comment, and helping me know I’m not alone in low-energy phases. So glad this wee post could help bring you cheer! Hugs, Gina

  10. 

    Thank for the renewed inspiration to make the decision to be happy!

  11. 

    Gina I had missed you! Now I see why!! I love this post, I am so connected to it! Thanks for coming back to writing 🙂 Love, joy and kindness your way!

  12. 

    Thank you, Gina. I’ve missed you, your spirit, and your posts. been missing you. I don’t know whether it’s because I’ve not seen some of your posts, or you’ve been posting fewer of them, or both, but I’m glad I saw this one.
    Russ

    • 

      Thank you my friend! I have been away from my computer but you have been on my mind. Hoping life is treating you well. Your visit means the world to me and I hope to be here more often, visiting and commenting more on your inspiring blog as I used to. Bless your heart.
      Hugs, Gina

      • 

        Dear Gina, please know that you are in my thoughts whether we are posting or commenting on each others’ blogs. You were there for me as one of my earliest supporters when I was breaking out of my shell and discovering my creative wings, and I will never forget your presence and the love and kindness I felt from you, and still do.
        With appreciation and love,
        Russ

        • 

          My friend Russ, I completely understand and feel the same way! That my appreciation for your posts helped buoy you up as you began brightens my heart! I’m glad I could encourage such an uplifting blogger as yourself. I still wonder how you work it all in… all your posts as well as being part of a big family, owning and running a business, as well as battling the occasional health challenge (as so many of us do). How do you do it? 😀 You are a hero, an everyday hero as Sharon puts it, and I am so thankful that we are friends. God bless your loving heart and all you do in our wonderful blogoshere family. Keep up the great work!
          Happy hugs, Gina

  13. 

    I really, really needed to hear this today. After feeling low for pretty much this entire week, made worse by the increasing heat and humidity in my part of the world, I haven’t had much energy for much else besides basic human needs. I started reading your post with a weary lethargy but by the end of it I feel more energized already. You’re right, just got to fake it until we make it. I’m so glad you posted and so glad I decided to come and read instead of putting it away for later. 🙂

    • 

      Wow, Lillian! This is the nicest thing you could share! That this humble post helped you feel energized in spite of the heat (I don’t do well in heat at all). Yes lethargy is something I do know and I have found I can defeat it by starting my day, or my walk, or my projects with the highest energy I can muster. Then I can maintain that higher energy more easily. 🙂 Be well, dear heart. I am sending you loving wishes for cooling breezes. Hugs, Gina

  14. 

    Gina, there is a TED talk on 2 minute power poses that can change your life and in this presenter’s talk she talks about ‘faking it til you make it’ and some of the neurobiology of it all and how it works! You build up this neural pathway of making “positive energy” (or whatever you want your response to be) your response when certain situations happen and you actually change the way your brain fires in these situations…and then one day, you notice you don’t even have to ‘fake it’ — the response you have “worked at” and wired is there! over and over — it becomes easier to do. I’ve seen it in my own life.
    I love this post, too, Gina, because you are talking about how happiness is a choice. And we have the power to shift our moods and our experience of a situation.
    Really beautiful, Gina. Glad to read your posts again!!!
    I’d be curious to hear how the hiatus was for you. love, lisa

    • 

      Lisa, how wonderful that you’ve shared about a TED talk on one of my favorite topics. Thank you! Isn’t it amazing how powerful our conscious choice is and how it affects our days and our life? And this incredibly powerful ability is accessible to everyone as we become aware of our moods. You write of this often in your wise blog, and how we can all choose to ‘soften’ into a situation… a moment. Such a powerful concept, to soften. And I’m aware of the irony in that phrasing… that is is powerful to soften. Bless your heart my friend. Your visit means the world to me, and I am delighted that you enjoyed this post. The insights gained during my hiatus are forming into an article or two which I intend to post soon. Much love and appreciation to you! Love, Gina

      • 

        Oh Gina, can’t wait to read about your insights. My posts are still formulating/stewing in regards to my injury earlier this year. Yes, I’d imagine there was some beautiful stuff that came out of your hiatus! Love, Lisa

  15. 

    Dear Gina, I’ve an award for you, for the beautiful person that you are.. Keep talking about Peace..

    Love and Peace, Summer

  16. 

    12 Steps program advise to make a gratitude list now and then. Helps put things in perspective.

  17. 

    I enjoyed your post The Perception Miracle with the great quotes. The comment I put on it I meant for this post. My mistake but I make no mistake in complementing you on both posts. I am pleased I step into your Blog site. thanks again.