Could there even be a lasting ‘couple’ without kindness? Without empathy and patience and respect? Without true love of self and others?
Love requires feelings for another so strong we acknowledge its importance and nurture it with care.
If you are single and enjoying it, good on you! I spent years in that space and I believe we must give thanks for each stage we are at in life. And if you are single and wish not to be, continue to focus on kindness. With yourself and others. As it turned out, I had to wait many years to find my life mate, but I always held on to hope – because it was something I wanted that much.
Lasting partnership has always been my heart’s true calling. A life-pairing to cherish and work on. Although – as so often happens – ‘work’ is not really the right word. It is not, or shouldn’t be, work.
A more fitting description is very much like how I look at gardening. It is something that needs regular attention. Tending. But it is not work. I enjoy tending my garden, and I enjoy tending my partnership. Many years of solitude as well as my natural personality traits find me having to stretch out of my comfort zone to talk of personal things. About how I am feeling or how he is feeling. But it is something that simply must be done. Like pulling the weeds from a garden.
I do want to know how he is doing, and how we are doing. And I want to let him know how I am doing, because if I am not feeling 100% I want him to know why, and that it isn’t about him. I cherish this partnership, this marriage, and I give thanks everyday for this life mate I am blessed to share my life with. He gives me strength and security, as well as hope and wings. May all be so blessed.